Get Your Ex Back FAQs
After an unexpected or unwanted breakup many things can swirl about through your head, and there are a few common questions that people mull over time and time again. In response, here are the answers to three of the most common.
With thoughts and feelings swirling around inside it can be tough to know what to do next. But you have to clear you mind of them, as it is tough to see what lies ahead when all you do is look over your shoulder. Also, when you’re not looking where you’re going there’s a good chance you can get tripped up.
1. How can I get my ex off my mind? Though not a common question, this is a step that has to be taken for you to get them back, because you have to have control of your feelings. The first thing to do is break routines. Take a different way to work, get up a bit earlier, try new things, or whatever, but just change things. A big part of this can be getting rid of things that remind you of them. You can keep a few keepsakes, but for the most part objects that you associate with them should be thrown away.
This includes online social contacts. There is no point in checking their status every time you log on – it’s self inflicted torture. Just keep their phone number.
You could start a new hobby or class and get in touch with a different social group, as removing items won’t help much if you end up spending a lot of time alone.
2. How long should I stay away from my ex? This one is hard to give a general answer to. It comes down to how fast you can change your perspective on the relationship. There are people who have made the instantly, others have changed in week, and yet for others it takes longer.
You’ll know when you’re ready to see your ex again because you’ll have had a couple of “Aha!” moments, you’ll know what went wrong, and you’ll know how you have to change to make it work this time. It takes different people different amounts of time, plus not all relationships end in the same way.
3. What’s the best way to contact my ex again? This also depends on your situation. If you can, you might try to bump into them “by chance” at a place you know they like to hang out. Just be sure you can conduct yourself in a way that doesn’t focus on them.
If you live apart and that is not practical a phone call is fine.
Just remember that to take this step you have to have turned the corner. Your ex knows you well, and is likely to spot anything fake a mile off. This will require a bit of planning on your part to make sure the interaction is a success.
Keep these rules in mind, but remember, nothing is set in stone as far as relationships are concerned. If you want to get your ex back, it comes down to how you handle yourself.
